Thursday, August 16, 2012

Martha vs. Mary

One of my favorite pictures of us...because no blog post is complete without a photo.

Do you know that story of Mary & Martha in the New Testament? It's the one where Jesus is speaking to a group of people and one sister (Martha) is running around trying to make sure everything is ready, while the other sister (Mary) is sitting at the feet of Jesus, listening to everything He is saying & enjoying His presence. I've heard the story approximately one million times and have known from the first that I am definitely like Martha. I identify with her, I get her, and sometimes I feel even a little defensive of her. What I didn't realize until recently is that I married someone who is much more like Mary.

I first noticed it when we moved into our new home. On moving day, I was a flurry of nerves...running from room to room, trying to make sure everything was perfectly planned out for the people who were helping us. I didn't want to inconvenience anyone and I wanted it to be as enjoyable as possible. But in my striving to make everything perfect, I was too busy to talk to anyone, to share in the experience with the group. Rob, on the other hand, was working hard...but also joking around, making people laugh & feel comfortable. Even at the end of the move, while I was running around trying to find the stupid trash bags, he was actually sitting with the group eating lunch, relaxing & enjoying a moment's rest. I was so thankful for him in that moment because I felt like I could not sit down and enjoy the moment, but he was so good at it. And I know people had a better time because he was actually taking the time to interact with them.

I noticed it again this morning as I was leaving for work. We only have a one car driveway and inevitably every morning, my car is parked in and I am the one that needs to leave first in the mornings. This morning, Rob was ready anyways so we left at the same time. I immediately rushed to get into my car, started my engine....and sat. For like an eternity 7 minutes. Right when we stepped out our front door, our neighbor had crossed the street to talk with Rob at the end of our driveway. Rob was being so friendly and kind. Aaron was asking to borrow our lawn mower (which is awesome that he felt like he could ask us), and then Rob was asking about how his nephew was doing (he had been shot three times last week and was in the hospital). Aaron filled him in and then they talked more about the lawn mower. Rob was just so kind and caring. I mean, he is definitely the reason we have connected with our neighbors so quickly. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there staring at the clock, wondering when he will be done so I could leave. Not to mention if the situation was reversed how differently it would have looked. If I was the one talking to Aaron, I would have said "Yes you can borrow our lawn mower, have a nice day!". I would have totally missed out on an awesome opportunity to love our neighbor, because I was worried about keeping my schedule and getting to work on time.

I am so thankful that I married a man who can put the right things first. I am thankful that he sees what is most important and he helps me to see it too. I am also thankful that the Lord has given me the grace to appreciate and value these differences in our personalities.

Thankful for the Lord's grace in my life, putting people in my life who can show me more of Himself.

1 comment :

  1. I'm afraid I can definitely relate to you Nicole, and my Ernie is more like Rob, especially when it comes to the joking and putting people at ease. What a wonderful reminder for us to be more aware of our natural "bent", and then take the time to be more like Mary when we can.


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